Seems its more important to pay attention that to be smart. Consider the ancient god of the Mesopotamian’s called Marduk, or the Egyptian god called Horas. Both symbolized the importance to paying attention before things get out of hand.
If you’re not paying attention in your relationships things will naturally deteriorate. The Gottman institute does very significant studied on marriage relationships, and even have a survey that they use that will predict with about 70% accuracy if you will still be married in 5 years.
They also have a set of Relationship quizzes that may be fun and insightful to take.
They have what is called the “Marriage Minute” which you can subscribe to. Comes to your inbox every Tue. & Thur. morning.