Well it turns out that the only personality trait that you’re be better off if it was opposite is Neuroticism. If you both score high in it, you’re sunk. As for the rest of the personality traits you’d be much better off if you’re similar.
In psychology today they’ve standardized on the Big 5 Traits. What are these traits?
- Enthusiasm (spontaneous joy and engagement) and Assertiveness (social dominance, often verbal in nature) for Extroversion.
- Withdrawal (the tendency to avoid in the face of uncertainty) and Volatility (the tendency to become irritable and upset when things go wrong) for Neuroticism.
- Compassion (the tendency to empathically experience the emotion of others) and Politeness (the proclivity to abide by interpersonal norms) for Agreeableness.
- Industriousness (the ability to engage in sustained, goal-directed effort) and Orderliness (the tendency to schedule, organize and systematize) for Conscientiousness.
- Openness (creativity and aesthetic sensitivity) and Intellect (interest in abstract concepts and ideas) for Openness to Experience.
It’s quite intriguing to take a quick personality test and then have your spouse take it for you. How we
perceive ourselves is not always how others see us.
Dr. Oz had Dr. Jordan B. Peterson on his show and then offered a free quick personality type quiz.
https://www.doctoroz.com/quiz/quiz-whats-your-personality-type It’s well worth taking the full test and being able to review the full analysis you get with it.
https://www.understandmyself.com/
